Are you feeling separated or disconnected from your inner life? The world is so focused on external, material matters, it can seem like your internal state isn’t significant. We aren’t given the space to shout, laugh, cry, jump up and down, or even truly express how we feel. We know through our compulsions, addictions, and failed relationships that simply trying to suppress our negative feelings doesn’t work. It takes effort, bravery, and curiosity to focus on your inner life, respect its truth, and apply its difficult lessons. Through this effort, we become familiar with the fundamentally unique and precious contours of our hearts.
Want to get started but aren’t sure how? Consider the ideas below.
The Six Steps to Reclaiming Your Heart
1. ADMIT IGNORANCE – We are always finding ways to suppress, deny, or avoid our feelings. Unfortunately, this cuts off access to some of the most beautiful and intrinsic aspects of ourselves. To start healing, we must admit that there is so much we haven’t let ourselves feel.
5. MAKE THE CHOICE – Desiring to heal and grow is only half the battle. To experience changes in our lives and in the lives of those around us, we must be willing to act in new and probably uncomfortable ways. True growth is always difficult. Commit to your best self and and know this can mean making tough choices.
6. SEEK INNER SUPPORT – When we don’t believe we are loved or have support, feeling safe enough to be ourselves is impossible. Try opening up to the idea that there is love inside of you, a love that transcends the ways individuals have failed you and you have failed. Understand that your relationship to feeling this love is an ever evolving journey that is never perfect, never easy, and yet fosters the emergence of your deepest self.