Before we got engaged, I was pressuring Jordan to do it. I was 27, convinced that if marriage was not in our future, then there was no point in continuing. What I didn’t realize was what I really wanted to know. I still wasn’t sure whether he wanted to marry me or...
A thought that has often haunted me is some combination of “you are a failure”, “you are failing”, or “you are not reaching your potential”. When these thoughts drift into my mind, they feel like ironclad truth, and they drown out any other thoughts that want space...
Doing dreamwork—speaking with people one on one in a therapeutic way about their dreams, attempting to create a healing, transformative process for a fellow human–there’s a lingering paradox for me. On one hand, I’ve been taught, and truly believe, that at...
In relationship, we tend to seek out the experience of being loved. We think if someone loves us, then we are lovable. When we believe we are lovable, we are invincible. We are powerful. We are standing in our full glory. And we are so, so vulnerable. Perhaps this is...
